This morning I sat to write this post, and shortly thereafter, my seven year-old daughter woke up. She stopped by for a cuddle and within minutes was buzzing about the house, asking questions and talking to the pets and puttering about. As I sat, staring at my computer screen, I heard her ask me, “Will you play with me?” And I wish I could say that I easily put everything down and went to play with her. But I hemmed and hawed and thought about all the Continue Reading
Well now, this is unorthodox, but it turns out I have a few more things to say, in a disjointed fashion, about moving through pain. If you haven’t read “Pain is Where the Change Happens”, start there and then come back to this, the most appealingly named “Pain Addendum”.
The first is this, taken from a talk I recently gave at the Association of Oncology Social Workers (AOSW) annual conference in Denver CO:
This is what a pilates instructor of mine used to say. Of course, she was referring to our rear ends and thighs, as we trembled on the reformer, fatigued and wanting with every fiber in our being to sit down (lay down, pass out…). But she was right. Pain is where the change happens. In life, in love, in illness, the painful places are where we transform into something else. It is an almost impossible place to stay; to appreciate and fully experience what is happening, but it is an essential part of the process of growth and change.Continue Reading
I have thought a lot about hope and forgiveness over the last few years. They are topics that are right up my alley, in that they are seen as important and central in the cancer experience, but they are difficult to quantify, to capture, or to describe in simple direct terms. Hope and forgiveness mean different things to different people, and Continue Reading
You know, I always say I’m not a conference person, which might surprise some people. But maybe this is less true than I think it is. Each year that I have gone to the Association of Oncology Social Work (AOSW) annual conference, I walk away with something that I simply could not have gotten anywhere else.
Two years ago in Seattle, I shared an idea with an audience for the first time and was rewarded with wonderful, fruitful, and validating feedback from a room full of my peers and colleagues. Last year in Tampa, on Continue Reading